Do you want a date for Saturday night, or for any other night? Are you looking for someone to spend the rest of your life with? A lot of people want to know why their friends get dates, but they are left sitting at home on Friday or Saturday night. They don’t know what they are doing wrong. They have a good job and looks, but they are dateless. They just don’t understand why this is happening.
Honestly, I had a client that was nice, good looking and very ethical. But he had some other problems that kept him dateless. The following are 10 reasons why he couldn’t get dates.
Dates aren’t just going to land in your lap. You have to take action to get them. This is one of the main reasons why people remain dateless. If you stay on the sofa, your chances of meeting new people are greatly reduced. Also, once you get out of the house, you have to be a nice and sociable person that others want to meet and hang around.
If you think that you won’t find love, then chances are you won’t. Your beliefs can either make you succeed or fail. If you think that you’re dateless because of your looks, job, education, weight or even your finances, then you may be right. This is because you allow negative thoughts to impact your chance of dating success. Why are you so negative? Think about how you can think positively about yourself. Make changes and believe in yourself.
If you believe you’re a victim, this hinders your dating success. Do you want to hang around people who constantly whine? If you’re a complainer, others won’t want to spend time with you. Also, they won’t like you if you’re always bragging about yourself. How do your friends see you? Ask them. You may discover a few ugly things about yourself that you didn’t know.
A majority of people don’t like the way that they look. Are you happy with your shape? If you dislike your body, you probably don’t do much to take care of it. When meeting new people this dislike for your body image is apparent. If you don’t like yourself, how do you expect others to like you? Go to the gym and get into shape. Learn to love your body image and be your number one champion.
5. Social Skills
Shy people tend to hide from others. Do you like to make up excuses for why you cannot attend social events? Are you convinced that there isn’t someone who is willing to date you? If you truly want to meet someone new, you have to get over this self-defeating behavior.
Work on your social skills. For example, go to the mall and learn how to approach total strangers. Talk to an older person who is the gender as yourself. You will see that you are a likeable person that people enjoy talking to.
Most people like confident people. What’s the best way to increase your confidence level? You have to earn it. If your goal is to be the best in everything that you do, it won’t be hard to earn. Confidence is not loud or arrogant. It is quiet and forgiving of you and others around you. Being a confident person means that you aren’t judgmental of others. You are confident enough to allow them to be themselves. Also, you know that you’ve done things the best way that you know how. You don’t automatically feel defeated.
Most people throw in the towel too quickly. If they do not get respect or if someone rejects them, they don’t fight and continue on. You have to be courageous and try again. Stick within your boundaries and you won’t feel too intimidated.
If you are a bad communicator, you’ll remain dateless. If you are not a friendly person, lurk around and don’t share personal info no one gets to know you. If you want to attract others, learn how to get their attention.
For example, you could tell them funny things about yourself. Tell them about what you value the most in life. Discuss some of your favorite hobbies. You can even talk about some of the people that you admire the most. These are some basic conversation starters that will give people more information about you.
Can you validate others? People like hanging with others who can do so. Can you compliment others around you? This goes a long way in building relationships and friendships. People like to know that their inner circle takes them seriously. If you can do this, then your inner circle will grow.
People want to spend time with good people. Are you a good person who has accomplished things in life? Are your friends and family proud of you? Do you always seek excellence in everything that you do? Are people willing to stand by your side and help you during your time of need? First you have to know who you are and who you are not. Then live life accordingly.
All in all, consider these ten reasons and determine if they apply to you. Make changes and you’ll have plenty of dates for Friday and Saturday nights.