Did your one and only love interest stop loving you? Or were you always the one who cared more? If you’re obsessed with an unrequited love interest, you know that this is one of the most miserable feelings imaginable.
It hurts when you love someone who doesn’t love you. It feels like you’ve been hit in the gut with a bag of bricks. You don’t feel attractive, loveable or significant anymore.
A lot of people vow to never feel this way again. They tend to pick future partners that will never leave them. Then there are others who refuse to fall in love again. They are so cynical about love. There are also those who still pick people who are not good partners. When the relationship ends, they feel unattractive, unlovable and insignificant once again. It is unhealthy to feel this way, but understand that you don’t have to suffer any longer with your obsessive thoughts.
This not the end of your life. It is just getting started. Just take a break from the dating world. Regroup, plan for the future and take the following things into consideration:
1.There isn’t anything wrong with you. You just misinterpreted the truth.
So, your love interest doesn’t feel the same way that you do. Just snap back into reality and move on. Don’t waste anymore of your time on this person. Sure, it’s going to be hard to do, but put your focus on something that will benefit you. However, at this point, your focus shouldn’t be on another person. Take a break before jumping back into the dating world.
2. Have you ever felt this way before?
Be honest and think back. Eventually, you will remember other times that you’ve felt unworthy. Learn how to get rid of these types of feelings. It will help you to get over your unrequited love obsession. This bad relationship has just made old feelings resurface. Your current feelings are not new ones. You’ve felt this way before.
3. When did your love interest tell you that the relationship was in trouble?
Did you choose to overlook the truth? Most people know after a couple of dates if the relationship has potential. If a person tells you that they aren’t ready for a serious relationship, take them seriously. They aren’t joking. Sometimes it’s hard to face the truth. As a result, you fail to listen to what your love interest has to say.
4. If the other person doesn’t feel the same way that you do, think about how you ended up in this type of relationship.
Are you afraid that no one else will love you?
Do you believe that you’ll be happy for the rest of your life if this person feels the same way that you do?
Do you feel that this person is such a wonderful person and that you aren’t in the same league?
If you are obsessed with someone that you think is better than you, then you may need to look at what you’re doing wrong in life. Maybe you feel like you aren’t living up to your full potential. Are you living vicariously through this person?
Sadly enough, a lot of people are okay with their unrequited love obsessions. They don’t expect anything in return. Unfortunately, this unrequited love isn’t treating you badly. You’re treating yourself badly by allowing the relationship to continue.
Why stay in a relationship with someone who clearly isn’t interested in you? It is time to get your love life back on track. Find someone who feels the same way about you. You are a loveable, attractive and significant person who deserves the best in life.